Category Archives for "Mother Self-Care"

Practicing self-care as a mother is an act of great courage and one of the greatest gifts you can give your child. Taking care of your own needs helps you balance your “mother self” with your “other self” so you can be a more present and intentional parent.

How To Create A New Mother Confessional Circle

Among every good parent’s worst fears is making that one bad decision, missing a giant blind spot, and getting it all wrong—making the kind of big mistake that just can’t be undone, that your child will be talking about in therapy for years. The mistake that will prevent them from living a full, happy life, and ruin their entire future.

If you’re at all self-aware and attempting to be a good parent, such a mistake probably doesn’t even exist. But the fear of parenting failure can be paralyzing and isolating, because it’s hard to know what kind of mistakes other parents are making! Evidence of mistakes is not the sort of thing one posts to Instagram. And in the absence of that knowledge, it’s harder to trust in the resilience of your children and your relationship.

One solution: create a confessional circle. When we parents confess our mistakes to each other, we can better access that place of trusting in resilience. This happens spontaneously sometimes when good friends get together in the right setting, but why not give it a little nudge? Here are some ideas to help you create the conditions for some extra good confessing.

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Organizing Your Postpartum Support Network – Part 2

So the first six weeks have passed. You’re still a new mom, but perhaps you feel pressure to be “back on your feet” and back to “normal”—whatever that means! You need people around you who support your integration process, however long it takes.
Healthy support networks are made of trusted, elevating, compassionate, and non-judgmental people. If you feel unsettled, unheard, or judged in someone’s presence, take space. Here are some considerations for building your long-range uplifting support network.

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Organizing Your Postpartum Support Network – Part 1

A postpartum mother is as physically and psychologically fragile as her newborn babe. Her mind may be scattered and she may feel otherworldly. Rightfully so—she has just bridged worlds in bringing new life onto Earth! She needs all of her inner resources to rejuvenate from pregnancy and birth and to mother her baby.

Postpartum support truly aims to mother the mother. A layered support network ensures her needs are met immediately after birth and on into motherhood. First, let’s explore what support looks like in early postpartum and where to find it.

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Perfectly Imperfect: The Good-Enough Mother

The good-enough mother…starts off with an almost complete adaptation to her infant’s needs, and as time proceeds she adapts less and less completely, gradually, according to the infant’s growing ability to deal with her failure. – D. W. Winnicott, 1953

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Motherbirth and the Gift of Forgetting

The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new. – Osho

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