So the first six weeks have passed. You’re still a new mom, but perhaps you feel pressure to be “back on your feet” and back to “normal”—whatever that means! You need people around you who support your integration process, however long it takes.
Healthy support networks are made of trusted, elevating, compassionate, and non-judgmental people. If you feel unsettled, unheard, or judged in someone’s presence, take space. Here are some considerations for building your long-range uplifting support network.
Postpartum support groups
New moms often wonder, is anyone else is experiencing this?! Sit with a group of women who are indeed experiencing the same thing, and you may quickly feel relief!
Some popular groups/topics:
Look for what you need. It’s out there!
A mom-friend with a child slightly older than yours
A friend with a child six months older than yours will be close enough in linear time to what you’re experiencing that they can tangibly empathize, while they are far enough out that they can remind you that everything will change—probably very soon! Their genuine understanding is invaluable.
A fabulous healthcare team
Select practitioners across various fields that appeal to you. Each will bring a unique perspective to your postpartum well being. My recent postpartum healthcare team included a massage therapist, an Ayurvedic practitioner, and my yoga mentor. Each was essential in my process of emerging as a healthy second-time new mother.
A great friend who is not a mother
Stay in touch with at least one close, long-term friend. Her continued presence will likely be grounding to you. In the event that you experience a deeper, potentially subtler issue such as postpartum depression, she may be the first to notice. She’ll know that “something is up,” and since she isn’t a mom herself, she may be less likely to normalize your difficulties.
Admirable elder mothers
Align yourself with mothers of grown children, whose parenting ethic resonates with your heart. These mothers can have a special ability to see you where you are at and where you want to be. They can support you as you become the mother you are destined to be.