Are You Hooked on Being Tired?
Being a new mother is fatiguing and stressful, but we add onto this a heap of our own inner baggage of being perfect. The stress from our heavy inner beliefs weighs on us, leading us to being chronically tried, but still not good enough.
To change this, the first place to start is to take a look at your beliefs about what a “good” mom does. Is it some version of a “super mom?” Are your expectations of yourself out of alignment with the deeper needs of your body or your spirit?
We’re hooked on being tired!
In some countries, particularly the US, we are addicted to being overloaded, overbooked and tired. We think a successful life and being a good mom means being busy with constant activity, achievement, and “to do” lists. Tiredness seems to be like a trophy that we’re doing things right!
Change your vision of what a “good” life means.
Choose peace of mind and well being as a priority in your life. Whenever you have decisions to make for yourself or your family, ask yourself, Is this choice creating a life with breathing room, or would this add stress and overwhelm me?
When you value peace of mind and wellbeing, it becomes a compass, a guide to help you create a life with more ease and vitality. Without this compass, you will make choices that drain and deplete you.
For me, changing motherhood stress is hard because I tend to always feel I need to give more and do more. Even when I already feel like I’m running on fumes. I have a hard time saying Yes to my own needs. And always feel like I’m responsible for helping the whole world. When I try to simplify, it feels uncomfortable. I am accustomed to stress! I don’t feel normal unless there is overwhelm!
In my life, I need to consciously and purposely adjust so my intended outcome of health, happiness and peace are able to take root. If something isn’t working, I give myself permission to change it. It’s not always clear how, and sometimes I can’t make that change immediately. But I maintain a vision of what I want. Feeling calm, energized and content are among my core values. I believe creating more simplicity in your life starts here, making it a core value. If you don’t, everything else will run the show.
Make peace of mind and well being one of your core values. Decide to model this for your children.
Mari is a licensed practitioner of Chinese medicine, a singer/songwriter and the creator of Mamashine. She is also a survivor of postpartum depression. Mari lives with her energetic son, her husband and various animals in Austin, TX.